Monday, September 22, 2014

PEDs: No Judgment Zone

As the owner of a reactive dog, it can sometimes be overwhelming when Edison has a bad day.


We're constantly wondering if people are judging us as dog owners, Edison, or worse, his breed.


That's why we work so hard to foster a judgment-free zone at our pack walks.  Our dog owners know they can come with whatever they are working on and not worry what other pack members think.  Even better -- they'll know what they are thinking: that they are a responsible dog owner working hard to improve their dog.


Do you ever feel judged?

10 comments:

  1. I do sometimes feel judged..but never when we are walking with the pack! I have even had someone tell me that I should call her because she is a trainer (this was while Luna was having a fit while she walked by with her dogs). I felt frustrated and a little embarrassed- for about one second!! Then I thought about how we were working through Luna's issues to help her and put it right out of my mind.
    Thank you for the judgement-free zone you have created for all of us, love the support from the group!!

    Leah (Luna's Mom)

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    1. We always have to remind ourselves of this, too! Sure, it would be so much easier to sit at home and not work on Ed's skills, but we're out there and we're trying!

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  2. I also have felt judged. I have been asked if one of my arms is longer than the other and who is taking who for a walk. I worry most about scaring unsuspecting dog walkers that we may pass if Luigi decides he doesn't like their dog. Although, Luigi has embarrassed me on the pack walk, I assume that all fellow pack walkers must realize that they might see a reactive dog "react" like Luigi has. I don't feel judged by "the pack". I feel the opposite...encouraged and supported. I love this group. It's exactly what we need.

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    1. Ugh, so true!! We have gotten nasty looks from some people when Edi has a meltdown, but there are others that have been so supportive!

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  3. I do feel judged when Boomer starts hollering his head off because he wants to meet another dog or when Dottie lunges on the leash to see another dog, but we're working on those issues and hopefully others understand what we're going through!

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  4. I'm glad you and Two Pitties both wrote about nearly the same thing today. Yesterday was our worst pack walk as far as Julius and I were concerned. He had done so well with his loaded back pack that we used it and his martingale instead of his harness on the walk and ended up dropping back so far so that in effect we weren't even "pack" walking. I felt so embarrased but not because of anyone else's reaction as much as my own.

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    1. It's so good to "stretch" your dog AND you like that! You try something and sometimes it works, and sometimes it's a big fail! But it's a learning experience for both of you. It's great that you have a safe & supportive environment to try new things like that!

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  5. Missy (Remmie girl's mom)September 22, 2014 at 10:20 PM

    Everyone is doing great! We won't get better & improve our dogs by keeping them @ home. Before I found PEDs I didn't know how I would be able to work on Remmie's reactivity when I was worried people would think I have an awful dog (when she really is wonderful). When people judge the dog or the breed we have to remember that we are being responsible by working on resolving issues and not ignoring them or giving up on the dog. Luna is doing great Leah. I think this week Remmie & her were having a short contest over who could bark louder but they decided to settle. Keep up the good work everyone & thanks again Hannah for starting the group and your commitment to us & great pics!

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  6. I bet on walks like that, you actually have less judgement and far more empathy. I don't care if your dog is the best dog in the whole wide word, at one point, they weren't. We can all relate to this heavy moments when you just want the other end of the leash to read your mind and stop spiraling!

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